4 Great Ways For Women To Deal With Their Anger

Anger is a natural reaction to an injustice committed against ourselves or others. We all get angry at times! But it’s only healthy if it’s managed properly. Let’s face it, on any given day, there’s a chance that we could get angry at something or other! This could be due to unfair criticism from a boss, an argument with a partner, or maybe just being ignored. But although anger is natural, it can also be toxic! If we’re not careful, we’ll cause damage to a working environment or a personal relationship.



And so in this article, we’re sharing four great ways for women to deal with their anger.

All The Rage

Why just talk about women? Well, we’re just gonna say it - men and women are different and, as such, experience emotions in different ways.

To an extent, women are often conditioned to keep their anger in check (as any woman who has ever been told to “calm down” will attest to) as this is an emotion that can be seen as nagging or even “unladylike”. This will often result in a woman bottling up her feelings until they inevitably explode - sometimes turning a relatively minor issue into a major one.

Great Ways For Women To Deal With Their Anger

With the best will in the world, few people are able to live a zen-like existence in which anger never rears its ugly head but, while anger may not be preventable, it is manageable and, in this section, we’ll look at some of the simple ways that you can do this:

1. Laugh it off

Not all anger is created equal and, in many cases, it’s minor issues which can make us “low key” angry. Obviously, we're not suggesting that this should be dismissed entirely, but this is a great example of where humor can help to diffuse a situation. Often, making a gentle joke about the action or words that have annoyed you won’t just take the edge off but will often trigger a positive action or apology from the perpetrator. Everyone can then go ahead and get on with their day.

2. Give me strength

There may be times when something has angered you - and humor isn't an option. Retaliation may have dire consequences - especially if the incident is between you and your boss! Here, exercise can be your new best friend. A brisk walk or a sporting activity releases feel-good chemicals called endorphins which lift our mood … and will also give you a chance to purge all of the potentially damaging responses that you are tempted to make.

3. It only takes a minute, girl

If exercise isn’t your bag, just taking a little time out can do the trick. When someone or something lights your fuse, taking a moment to make a cup of tea or to call / message a friend can help to put the problem into perspective and allow you to think through what action - if any - you should take.

4. A measured response

We’ve talked about taking a timeout or perhaps using exercise to control our anger and both of these lead us to our final piece of advice. There will be times when your anger at someone or something is so great and / or enduring that you feel that you have no choice but to respond. While this is very much your right - and your prerogative - it's how you respond that matters. When addressing the issue it's essential to make sure that it’s you - and not your anger - speaking (hence the importance of a time-out).

When you need to address what’s making you angry, you’ll get much better results by doing so in a calm and measured way. This means taking the time to remove the emotion in order to boil the issue down to the plain facts.. It will allow you to state your case in a rational and convincing way as well as, where necessary, gathering evidence to back up your argument.

Making Anger Work For You

Having got this far, you may be forgiven for thinking that all of this is geared toward encouraging women to keep a lid on their anger even if that means, to an extent, being a bit muzzled. But of course this is very much not the case! It’s just that problems occur when anger is allowed to take control and therefore cloud your rationale.

Back in the Victorian era, women were sometimes institutionalized for being ‘hysterical’ - i.e. displaying extreme emotions....



Well, it's a great relief that we’ve come a long way since then!  But women are still sometimes accused of letting their emotions get the better of them. Obviously this is just a lazy stereotype and completely wrong.

But giving in to the temptation to get even angrier at the accuser will only amplify the problem … in fact, it may reinforce the stereotype. So staying calm, and addressing the problem in a measured way will actually turn the other person’s attitude against them.

Always remember that extreme anger is rarely appropriate or productive, however you may feel. But when managed correctly, anger can actually spur you on to take action and achieve your goals.
It’s best to focus the energy in your anger towards getting the results you want ... and knowing that you’ve proved people wrong in the process is an added bonus.

So use these tips to channel the positive power of your emotions and use them for positive outcomes. You’ll be super glad you did!